Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Pastor's son arrested for sexual battery against two young girls



The pastor's son at a local church has been arrested and charged on suspicion of sexual misconduct with two minors, according to court records and the sheriff's office.

Ruben J. Matuk, 28, has been charged by the district attorney's office on suspicion of lewd and lascivious acts with a minor, indecent exposure, attempted lewd acts with a child under 14 and sexual battery, according to San Benito County court records.

Investigators allege the crimes occurred at the Apostolic Full Gospel Church of Christ, 1515 Santa Ana Road, and also at Matuk's residence adjacent to the church address, said Detective Victor Casada with the San Benito County Sheriff's Office.

Sheriff's investigators first were informed of the suspected misconduct Nov. 14. The two alleging victims disclosed the incidents to someone else who, in turn, reported them to the sheriff's office. Deputies arrested Matuk that night, Casada said.

Matuk, however, was released from the San Benito County Jail on Nov. 23 after posting bail, which had been set at $100,000, according to court records. His attorney, Elvira Zaragoza Robinson, declined to comment when reached Monday.

"At this time, his attorney is not making a statement," she said.

Matuk's father and the pastor of the local church, meanwhile, could not be reached before press time.

Authorities believe the misdeeds started in September 2003 when they suspect Matuk committed lewd and lascivious acts with a girl who had been 12 years old, Casada said.

Regarding the second suspected victim, prosecutors charged Matuk on suspicion of attempted lewd and lascivious acts in June 2008, along with indecent exposure and sexual battery on Sept. 1 of this year, according to court records. Those dates mean the alleging victim would have been about 15 years old at the time.

Two of the charges are felonies. A conviction for lewd and lascivious acts would carry a maximum penalty of eight years in prison, while attempted lewd and lascivious acts has a maximum penalty of three years in prison, according to the penal code. If convicted, Matuk also would have to register as a sex offender.

At a hearing Friday afternoon, Judge Steven Sanders OK'd a protective order – requested by Deputy District Attorney Omar Rodriguez – against Matuk disallowing him from making any contact with the suspected victims. He also is barred from being on the church property because some of the accusations allege he committed the acts on the grounds.

Sanders set the next hearing in the Matuk case for 2 p.m. Dec. 8 at the San Benito County Courthouse. Deputy District Attorney Omar Rodrigues is overseeing the prosecution in the case.


http://www.gilroydispatch.com/news/city_local_government/article_e96da5ab-f999-5660-a443-4134995b0ad2.html

New Testament verse says to kill immoral people

1 Corinthians 5:5

To deliver such one to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus

From Barnes notes:

To deliver - This is the sentence which is to be executed. You are to deliver him to Satan, etc

Gill's Exposition:

for the destruction of the flesh; that is, that his body might be shook, buffeted, afflicted, and tortured in a terrible manner; that by this means he might be brought to a sense of his sin, to repentance for it, and make an humble acknowledgment of it:

Eighteen year old girl drowned by evangelical Pastor

Police in Bolivia detained an evangelical pastor and his sister after they allegedly killed a sibling during a bathtub exorcism, officials said Monday.

The suspects, Carlos Uriona and Adelaida Marca, were arrested after they allegedly drowned their sister during the ritual, police spokesman Juan Carlos Corrales said.

"The suspects confessed that their 18-year-old sister was possessed by the demon and they wanted to purify her and christen her in a bathtub, but it went too far," said Corrales, speaking during a telephone interview.

He said the young woman drowned.

The incident occurred on Sunday in the city of Cochabamba. Police found the victim's body inside a store owned by the pastor.

Marca told investigators that he felt an evil presence when he submerged his sister in the tub, Corrales said.

"An evil spirit entered me, took control of my hand and began to submerge my little sister," Marca purportedly told police. "Satan was inside the tub."

Corrales said the suspects may undergo a psychological evaluation before they go to trial.

He said they had said they intended to perform a "purification" ceremony or exorcism because they felt their sister had been possessed by the devil


http://latino.foxnews.com/latino/lifestyle/2011/12/21/bolivia-arrests-suspects-in-exorcism-killing/#ixzz1hoowl9K1

Iranian Christian man kills his daughters and family

He was celebrating Christmas, doesn't that make him a Christian?

A 56-year-old suburban Dallas man facing marital and financial problems killed his estranged wife, two teenage children and three other family members on Christmas Day while dressed as Santa Claus before turning the gun on himself, authorities said Tuesday.

A police spokeswoman said Aziz Yazdanpanah died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound and the six others were shot to death.

Police responding Sunday morning to a 911 call found the seven people inside an apartment near Dallas-Fort Worth International Airport. It appeared they had been opening presents around their Christmas tree just before the attack.

Yazdanpanah became the focus of detectives after his sport utility vehicle was found outside the apartment. The slayings have shaken friends and neighbors who knew Yazdanpanah and his wife, both of whom were born in Iran, as well as their two U.S.-born children.

"The Persian community is devastated," said Mashy Modjdehi, who knew both Yazdanpanah's wife of 24 years, Fatemah Rahmati, as well as her sister, Zohreh. Modjdehi called the two sisters "the nicest people in the world — angels."

Authorities said those killed were: Yazdanpanah, 56; Rahmati, 55; Nona Yazdanpanah, 19; Ali Yazdanpanah, 14; Mohamad Hossein Zarei, 59; Zohreh Rahmaty, 58; and Sara Fatemeh Zarei, 22.

Grapevine police spokesman Robert Eberling said Tuesday that detectives believe Yazdanpanah's marital and financial troubles led him to kill his family.

Yazdanpanah's wife filed for bankruptcy in August 2010, and she told her attorney she hoped the proceedings would stave off foreclosure of the home where the family had lived for more than a decade.

In the midst of the bankruptcy, she separated from Yazdanpanah and the proceedings were later dismissed because she failed to make the plan payments, said the attorney, George Barnes.

Yazdanpanah's wife, known to family and friends as Nasrin, moved out of the couple's home in the neighboring suburb of Colleyville in April and into the apartment complex near where the shooting took place. The two children moved with her.



http://news.ca.msn.com/top-stories/texas-murder-rampage-shooter-faced-marital-problems-15

If you know David Wood's a liar clap your hands!

David Wood said on his blog that he doesn't approve of comments that promote violence against Muslims. His side bar says his entire pseudo blog is out of love not hate. But we all know on his blog the comments are pretty vile and degrading. Take for example here:

Thank you for giving us the chance to view the wretched, racist, misogynist, fascist, hate-filled and oppressive sickness (known to us as "Islam") in comparison to the remaining freedoms enjoyed by 21st century humanity.

May Heaven help us to be unwavering in our determination to set free the precious Muslim people and to send the scourge of Islam back to the hell from which it was derived.

No hatred for Muslims - no Tolerance for Islam.

Islam is Death - DEATH TO ISLAM!!


LOL

Monday, December 26, 2011

Young Jewish girl fears harassment from Orthodox Jews in Israel

If you go on the link and to the bottom where the comments are, you'll see how Islam and Muslims are getting blamed.

Jerusalem (CNN)–Eight-year-old Naama Margolis is afraid to walk to school.

She's afraid, her mother says, because life has become a nightmare for anyone who doesn't follow the edicts of the ultra-Orthodox Jews who have flocked in recent years to their city of 80,000 just outside of Jerusalem.

"They threaten everyone in town over everything they don't like," Hadassah Margolis told CNN on Monday. "We have suffered swearing, they have had eggs, tomatoes, stink bombs and rocks thrown at us. They do this to anyone who doesn't think, look or act as they do."

"I'm afraid when one of them passes by me," she earlier told Israel's Channel 2 "I don't know if he will spit on me or will curse me 'whore', 'slut', "bastards" 'go away from here' - exactly in those words."


The Margolis family, whose story was detailed Friday in a nationwide television broadcast, is the latest in a series of high-profile examples of what critics say are attempts by groups within Israel's ultra-Orthodox community to impose its religious beliefs on the public and excise women from the public sphere.

CNN's Belief Blog – all the faith angles to the day's top stories

Last week, for instance, a young Israeli woman made headlines when she detailed her experience refusing a ultra-Orthodox man's demands that she sit in the back of a bus. Several well-publicized rallies have also voiced opposition to various forms of gender segregation favored by the ultra-Orthodox.

In addition to demanding more modesty and trying to segregate bus passengers, ultra-Orthodox Jews have posted unofficial signs in some neighborhoods commanding men and women to walk on different sides of the street.

The issue has prompted responses from Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, who broached the topic Sunday for the fourth time in two weeks.

He ordered officials to take down the street signs and promised a stiff response to harassment, saying that Israel was a democratic, western and liberal state.

"There is no place for harassment or discrimination," he said.

The issue has played prominently in the Israeli press for weeks, and much of the debate has centered on Beit Shemesh, where the Margolis family lives.

In recent years, an influx of adherents to what critics say are the most extreme sects in ultra-Orthodox Judaism has inflamed tensions with other residents holding less strident views.

The Margolis family practice Orthodox Judaism, but are not considered strict enough by the extreme ultra-Orthodox faction in the community.

"I am not anti-religious, anti-Orthodox or anti-secular" Hadassah Margolis said, "I am anti-bad people and they are bad. They need to be taken out of here."

In the television report aired Friday, one unidentified ultra-Orthodox resident was asked whether he wanted the entire city to become religious.

"Not just Beit Shemesh - all of Israel will be ultra-Orthodox," he replied. "And nothing can help you. The country, at the end, will be an ultra-Orthodox country whether you want it or not."

In response to growing tensions in the city, Israeli police and the Beit Shemesh officials announced a plan to install more than 300 security cameras to document harassment.

Police also have deployed extra officers to prevent violence, spokesman Micky Rosenfeld said.

Two suspects were arrested in separate incidents this week. One man spat at a passing woman. Another tried to attack television crews covering the events.

Much of the public debate in Israel has centered on who is to blame for the situation, with most holding the government responsible for ceding too much power to religious parties.

But much of the responsibility lies with Israel society, said activists who have worked on gender segregation issues.

"I believe while this government is responsible to the situation to a degree, they are not the only ones" says Shira Ben-Sasson Fustenberg of the New Israeli Fund. "All of us are to blame for not stopping this from happening when it first started, we could have taken a stand a long time ago."

Israelis outraged about the incident in Beit Shemesh have planned a candle-light protest Tuesday in support of residents there.

"There is a sense that extreme margins in the Israeli society are growing in confidence." event planner Tzviki Levin told Israel radio.

"There is an attempt to deny freedom and values of democracy, the values on which the state of Israel was created," she said. "The rally tomorrow is our way of making a strong statement."


http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2011/12/26/ultra-orthodox-demands-spark-debate-in-israel/?hpt=hp_c2

Sunday, December 25, 2011

Hadiths on kindness to haters and congratulating non-Muslims

From: http://www.onislam.net/english/ask-the-scholar/morals-and-manners/social-manners/169282-congratulating-non-muslims-on-their-festive-occasions.html

Thus, if maternity and blood relation rights are obligatory upon a Muslim, in a way that exemplifies the beautiful manners of Islam and Muslims, it is also obligatory upon a Muslim to pay the due rights that work towards showing Muslims as people of beautiful character. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) advised Abu Dharr (may Allah be pleased with him) saying: “Be aware of Allah wherever you are, and follow up a sin that you have committed with a good deed, so that sin may be erased, and treat people with beautiful manners.” (Reported by Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi, Ad-Darmi, and Al-Hakim) As is evident, the emphasis is upon “…and treat people with beautiful manners” not “…treat Muslims”.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also strongly advised us to deal with non-Muslims in a mild and gentle manner, not using stern and terrorizing methods. It was reported that when a group of Jews approached the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and greeted him with twisted pronunciation, and thus uttered “Assam`alaykum, O Muhammad!” (meaning “death and destruction come upon you”) instead of “as-salamu `alaykum”, `A'ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) heard them and responded by saying, ‘assamu `alaykum also and the curse and wrath of Allah!” The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) rebuked `A'ishah for what she had said. She told him, “Did you not hear what they said?” He said, “I did, and I responded by saying, ‘And upon you,’” (i.e., that death will come upon you as it will come upon me.) He went on to say, “O `A'ishah! Allah loves gentleness in all matters.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Indeed the permissibility of congratulating non-Muslims on their festive days becomes more of an obligation if they offer their greetings on Islamic festive occasions, as we are commanded to return good treatment with similar treatment, and to return the greeting with a better one or at least with the same greeting. Allah Almighty says: “When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than it, or at least return it equally…” (An-Nisa' 4: 86)

A Muslim must never be less charitable or pleasant or indeed of lesser manners than any other, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) stated in the hadith: “The most perfect believers in terms of their iman are those who possess the most beautiful manners.” (Reported by Ahmad, At-Tirmidhi, Ad-Darmi, and Abu Dawud), and he (peace and blessings be upon him) also stated: “Verily I have been but sent to perfect the most noble of manners.” (Reported by Ahmad, Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad and Al-Bazzar in Kashful Astar)

Monday, December 19, 2011

South African Pastor arrested for raping eleven young girls

Second South African Pastor to be arrested this week.

A case of rape against a dental surgeon who is also a pastor of a local church in Mhluzi, near Middleburg, will resume in the Middleburg Magistrate’s Court tomorrow.

He was arrested for allegedly raping 11 girls, aged between 11 and 15, all members of his church.

The doctor, whose name is being withheld by police, was remanded in custody since his arrest two weeks ago for further investigations to take place.

In addition, the doctor is facing charges of attempted murder, assault with an intention to cause grievous bodily harm, damage to property, possession of an unlicensed firearm and ammunition.

He was arrested with three alleged accomplices. They were accused of assaulting and forcing people to sign up as church members.

The doctor and his co-accused, who are also in custody, will appear with him tomorrow.

Provincial police spokesperson Sgt Gerald Sedibe said the doctor and his co-accused have been charged with assaulting a group of people and forced them to sign up as church members.

After police investigation, 11 charges of rape were laid against the doctor by the young girls, also church members.

“The doctor was also charged with an extra count of rape after police investigation revealed that 11 cases of rape were laid against him by 11 teenage girls, who are his church members.

“The suspects were all remanded in custody, including the extra charge of rape against the doctor,” said Sedibe.


http://www.thenewage.co.za/38212-1008-53-Case_against_rape_dentist_continues

Indiana Pastor arrested for sexually assaulting fourteen and eleven year old girls

A former Harrison County deputy and church pastor who has already had a run in with the law is back in hot water.

Eddie Nichols was arrested Friday by Texas Rangers and charged with sexual indecency with a child by contact.

He was released after posting bond in the amount of $100,000.

This is the third arrest for Nichols in the last two months.

Nichols and his wife, Sharon, were arrested on the same charge in October.

That arrest stemmed from allegations the pair assaulted two girls ages 14 and 11.

Following his arrest, Nichols was fired from the Harrison County Sheriff's Office.

Sharon Nichols was fired from her job in the Harrison County Clerk's office


http://www.ktbs.com/news/30033091/detail.html

Friday, December 16, 2011

South African Pastor arrested for raping fifteen year old girl

A pastor was arrested on Thursday for raping a 15-year-old girl in Butterworth, said Eastern Cape police.

The incident took place last Thursday near the Ibika informal settlement when the pastor allegedly lured the girl to a spot near an unused railway line, said Captain Jackson Manatha.

“She tried to run but the pastor overpowered her,” said Manatha.

The 20-year-old pastor was charged with rape and will appear in the Butterworth Magistrate's Court on Monday. – Sapa


http://m.iol.co.za/article/view/e/1.1199562

Thursday, December 15, 2011

Canadian Imam's condemn honor killings

Two different Imam's. Firstly from here: http://www.lfpress.com/news/canada/2011/12/15/19129866.html

KINGSTON, Ont. -- The young imam here knows those alleged to have been part of the horrible Rideau Canal "honour" murders have nothing to do with Muslim life in Canada's original capital city. But he also knows, with the whole country watching this gruesome trial, they have everything to do it.

This trial has not yet had the Crown's case tested by a jury of the accused's peers. It will resume Jan. 9, 2012.

"The people on trial for these horrendous allegations are from Montreal and were just passing through," the imam at the Kingston Islamic Centre said Thursday.

"But I am realistic," said the 29-year-old Canadian-born Sikander Hashmi of what this trial means to every other Muslim living in the shadow of the horrible testimony of the alleged quadruple slaying of four women on June 30, 2009.

He knows that the first-degree murder trial of Mohammad Shafia, his wife Tooba Mohammad Yahya and their son Hamed for the murder of sisters Zainab, Sahar and Geeti, and Shafia's first wife, Rona Amir Mohammad could cast unfair aspersions on people who don't have anything to do with it."I don't know anybody who thinks like this," said Hashmi of Kingston's 1,000 or so Muslims.

He wanted to make sure the rest of Canada understands this. But he went even further.

On the off chance there are people at his mosque, or elsewhere in Canada, who are not clear on what he thinks is the obvious, he decided to speak out.

"Obviously, this is a Muslim issue that needs to be addressed because these things have happened inside the faith," he said. "I am a father of a daughter myself."

He "felt a need" to address the difficult subject in last week's sermon and will touch on it again this Friday.

"I just make it perfectly clear that no killing or domestic violence is acceptable for any reason" and is "reprehensible."

He wondered if some old-school Muslims would not appreciate drawing any attention, but he has been pleasantly surprised by the response.

"I did not hear one negative comment," he said. "Many have said it was good to address this because we all feel the same way that such crimes are wrong."

It did not offend anybody in the congregation, said member Wissal Mesfar who, with wife Malik Derbel, originally from Tunisia, have a young boy and a girl.

"It's just unacceptable," Mesfar said of "honour" killings.

Derbel added, "We follow Islam and feel the people who have these kinds of ideas of it should stay in their own countries."

This one allegedly happened in Canada, and the imam said he prays it never comes up here again.

By speaking out, Hashmi, who grew up a Habs fan in Montreal to immigrant-Pakistani parents, has shown great leadership.

In fact, he is speaking the language of common sense so many want to hear from Muslim leaders.

Other than being a Canadiens' fan, he is very impressive.

However, a national profile on such issues, he said, is not his focus or goal.

"I am here to serve my community," he said, adding the people in what he calls "Little Mosque North of the 401" are very good people of all sorts of different backgrounds.

He said Kingston's Muslims have done lots of great work here, like "raising $100,000 for Kingston General Hospital." The Islamic Society of Kingston Volunteer Team, a group of about 40, has worked on many charitable projects for the needy.

"I have to tell you, people in our centre are shocked by what they are hearing in this case and will be glad when (it's over)," he said.

Although the conclusion can't come soon enough for Imam Hashmi, he said, it won't be glossed over and it will be talked about again.

"What happened here needs to be talked about," he said.

Talked about by Muslims and talked about by everybody.



Second Imam from: http://www.vancouversun.com/news/Ottawa+imam+condemns+honour+killings/5842386/story.html

OTTAWA — The imam of the Ottawa Mosque has condemned so-called honour killing, saying the practice speaks to a perverse sense of honour that is alien to Islam, and has no place in society.

Samy Metwally said Friday that it doesn’t make sense to think or believe that any religion will condone killing people to preserve family honour.

“What’s called honour killing is not part of Islamic teaching or tradition, and in fact there is no honour in this killing at all,” Metwally told The Citizen.

“It has nothing to do with religion and it has no backup either from the texts of the Qur’an or from the behaviour, sayings or deeds of the Prophet Muhammad, who is the model for Muslims.”

Metwally was speaking to The Citizen on the day of “a call to action” during which imams across the country delivered sermons against domestic violence, and to reiterate that Islam has no tolerance for violence against women.

“The purpose of this call to action is to raise awareness of Muslims that we are not allowed to do things like beating our wives or doing physical or emotional harm to them. The religion does not permit us to do these,” he said.

The nationwide sermons were triggered by the sensational trial in Kingston, Ont., in which Montreal businessman Mohammad Shafia, his son and wife are accused of killing his three teenage daughters and his first wife allegedly because their behaviour dishonoured the family. A Kingston imam, concerned that the deaths are being misrepresented as something to do with Islam, asked colleagues around the country to deliver special sermons on domestic violence and make clear Islam has nothing to do with so-called honour killings.

Metwally would not comment directly on the ongoing trial, but said there have been so many misconceptions about “honour-killings” that it is imperative that imams set the record straight.

Metwally, who took over as imam of the city’s largest Muslim community a little over a month ago, said he has been so inundated with complaints about marriage problems he realized domestic discord was a huge problem among his congregation. He decided to devote his sermons to the problem, and the “call to action” fit into his program.

In his sermon, Metwally urged a packed Ottawa Mosque to look to the examples of the Prophet Muhammad, who never hit or abused his wives in any form. Quoting statistics that he says show that one in three women are subjected to some form of physical, mental or emotional abuse, he said domestic violence has no religious boundaries. But he said Muslims have a special duty to refrain from abusing their wives because Muhammad, whose examples are supposed to guide them, not only refrained from the behaviour, but forbade it.

Using several examples from the life of the Prophet and his companions in how they related to their wives, Metwally said Muslims have a responsibility to treat their wives with dignity, kindness and “equity.” He reminded them of one the most famous sayings on the subject from the Prophet: “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.”

The imam told the Citizen that one of the major problems in dealing with many issues, including domestic abuse, is that people often pull Qur’anic verses out of context and

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Pastor arrested for sexual misconduct against his stepdaughter

A Shelby man police identified as the pastor of the Burning Bush faith organization northwest of Shelby was arrested Monday on two criminal sexual conduct counts for allegedly engaging in sexual contact with a stepdaughter, resulting in two children.

Timothy George Bender, 48, of 128 N. 64th Ave., turned himself in to the Oceana County Sheriff’s Department at approximately 3 p.m. Monday. He is charged with two counts of criminal sexual conduct, third degree, for allegedly engaging in sexual intercourse with his stepdaughter between September 2007 and September 2010. The
alleged incidents are to have taken place on the Bender property.


http://oceanaheraldjournal.com/news/43605-burning-bush-pastor-faces-sex-charges

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Catholic Priest arrested for assaulting his daughter

SUFFOLK, Va. (WAVY) - A Suffolk priest has resigned as pastor of two local churches after being charged with domestic assault.

Rev. Piotr Bialkowski was arrested on Nov. 28 for an incident that took place Nov. 27, according to Suffolk police spokesperson Debbie George.

"She advised the father of her child entered her home, came in the bedroom, forced her up against the wall, pinned her up against the wall. It took a friend jumping on his back to get him off of her," George said.

Bialkowski was a pastor at St. Mary's in Suffolk and Good Shepherd in Smithfield.

The congregations were informed of the accusation at the weekend Masses of Dec. 3 and 4 and Bialkowski confirmed the accusation was true, according to Rev. Francis X. DiLorenzo, Bishop of Richmond.

Bialkowski was also suspended from all priestly duties.

As a priest of the Diocese of Rodan in Poland, Bialkowski is under the jurisdiction of the Bishop of Rodan, DiLorenzo said.

DiLorenzo said he and his staff will be working on behalf of the two parishes to assign a new pastor.


http://www.wavy.com/dpp/news/crime/priest-charged-with-domestic-assault

Monday, December 5, 2011

Can a husband boss his wife around?

Taken from: http://askthescholar.com/question-details.aspx?qstID=9137

Question:

I was wondering if it is permissible in Islam to "order" his wife. I understand that in matters of need and important situations this is acceptable. However in everyday life can a man exercise this type of behavior? Furthermore does a woman have to oblige?For instance can a man say "I order you to iron my clothes" or "I order you to tell me what you were doing". There is no doubt that a husbands satisfaction and contentment is key to a woman entering jannah but do men possess such a right in ordinary circumstances? If so wouldn't this be unjust as the woman has no choice but to obey?I asked this question previously but have not received a response. JzkAssalamualaikum


Answer:


The basis of marriage life in Islam is mutual respect, love, and affection, rather than one party dominating the other.

Allah says, "Among His signs is that He created for you spouses of your own kind, in order that you may repose in tranquility with them, and He has implanted in your hearts mutual love and affection for one another. Certainly, in these are signs for those who reflect (on God's wisdom)". (Qur'an: 30:21)

Allah also ordered husbands to treat their wives with utmost kindness and affection, and the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "The best one among you is he who is best to his family; I am the best to my family."

Anas b. Malik, one of his companions who accompanied for ten years, had this to say about the Messenger of Allah, "I never saw anyone kinder than him to his family."

Therefore, no husband has the right to treat his wife, as if she were a maid, and order her around. That is not an acceptable behavior in Islam. Marriage life is different from a corporation. It is all about shared feelings of respect and love.

I would, therefore, advice for both of you to see a professional Muslim counselor who should help both of you to resolve the tensions in your marriage. You may also do well to order a copy of Blissful Marriage: A Practical Islamic Guide by Ekram Beshir. You can get it from amazon.ca or amazon.com.

Thursday, December 1, 2011