Friday, April 29, 2011

Christian women rebel against FGM in Kenya

So Kenya is 80% Christian, and polygamy and other types of Christian matter (like honor killings) are widely found. AND the article doesn't mention Muslim names, making the women most likely Christian.

When two women in rural Kenya refuse genital mutilation, the social costs are high

A remote village in the hills of Northern Kenya, two teenage girls attempt an unprecedented rebellion, and refuse female genital mutilation. This is an extraordinary film because it shows you something that outsiders rarely see: the conflicts within intimate relationships triggered by social change.

Female genital mutilation (FGM) horrifies – and bewilders – westerners who find it incomprehensible that a mother would allow her daughter to be so brutally amputated with all the risks of infection, difficult childbirth and deprivation of sexual pleasure. What this film does is to show how custom – even when violent and dangerous – embeds itself in social expectations. These girls are not considered eligible by prospective husbands until they have been cut; their parents need the income from a dowry to shore up precarious family finances. Standing out against such powerful conventions is difficult, dangerous, and costs money.

But even worse it causes huge emotional conflict within the closest, most important relationships. We see a daughter arguing with her mother over why she refuses to be cut, and a wife arguing with her husband. One of the most poignant moments is when Nancy, an exemplary daughter in every respect, challenges her mother's authority. She doesn't want a life like her mother's, she declares. You can see the bewildered hurt on the mother's face; this kind of rejection may be familiar to many a western parent but perhaps still a novelty in a culture where the idea of making your own fate in life, particularly for a girl, is completely alien.

Implicit in this rejection is a judgment of the inadequacy of the mother's life, a repudiation of her form of love. "I don't want to grind stones all my life like you," says Nancy. "I bury you, you bury me in a vicious cycle of daughter and mother."

"You are killing me," says Nancy's mother, adding: "I am defeated, I am confused." It's painful to witness her humiliation at the hands of her daughter. In a culture where respect and deference to your elders, particularly from women, is sacrosanct, such rebellion requires a huge strength of character and determination.

Nancy is also challenging her mother's preferential treatment of her brother. Nancy's cutting is the price of her brother's secondary education. Her dowry will pay his school fees. If every aspect of a culture reinforces this kind of preferential treatment of sons, how does a girl begin to challenge it.? At one point Nancy even threatens to run away and cut all ties with her family. This kind of process of social change requires a rejection of crucial aspects of identity as a woman, as a member of a family with strong ties of responsibility.

Another girl, Gertrude, is equally defiant in her rejection of FGM. She runs away to her grandmother, she threatens suicide. She is much loved by her father but he has already received some of a dowry for her and he insists she must be cut; he is conflicted between his affection for his daughter and his hard-headed calculation of family material wellbeing. That is a conflict only understandable within the context of real poverty. Gertrude's mother is the heroine as we see a scene in which she skilfully manages the father, defending her daughter. He threatens to throw her out, rejects her food. She calmly sits out his temper. But the risk of family breakdown over the issue is clearly apparent.

A girl cutting herself off from her family with all the risks that entails; a divorce: these are the worst possible scandals in rural life in Kenya with punishingly high costs for the women involved. The film is a vivid depiction of how high the stakes are for women to challenge convention in many parts of rural Africa.


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1 comment:

Anonymous said...

BUTCHERS OF WOMANHOOD -FGM PROSTITUTION ON WOMANHOOD BY PARENTS (COVENANT OF THE FLESH).
When God told Abraham to sign the covenant of the flesh, he circumcised all the male children and he was
circumcised. The message was direct and in plain language. GENESIS 17: 1-27. The
agreement was strategically initiated and the male child grew beholding
daily his agreement with God at every call of nature throughout his married life.. The covenant of the flesh for a man is with ease to behold with no ill feelings or regrets without medication required afterwards in life.
When God told Moses that the Children of Israel shall not circumcise their girls, the message was given in a spiritual language and bore two warnings. The Israelis parents shall not sexually mutilate their daughters and fathers were
commanded not have carnal knowledge (incest) of their daughters making them
prostitutes. Fgm prostitution is a satanic sacrifice for a woman, of secrecy with miseries and constrains of disgrace to behold accompanied by many cases of traumatic child delivery requiring medication. There is no fold of a fore skin in sexual organ of a woman to cut round that hides dirty stuffs that stinks. There is no part of her sexual organ that rots as she grows old from childhood. There are blunt lies of those women anointed by satan to propagate fgm when they claim women that are not cut stinks. Homes ,cities and countries where fgm is not practiced would have been stinking hell if their claim is true which would have been an open truth known by all. The devil is the father of lies and his accomplished the same. They have given fgm prostitution a satanic religious face value with wholesome none existent cleanses which is mockery to wisdom and Word of truth. Today fgm prostitution advocates feel their marriages are under attack and endangered with the unfolding truth on falsified physical and spiritual beneficial issues acclaimed in fgm. All they have is to tell epic of lies to keep their husbands mentally caged and remain relevant to their husbands. The rotten social bubble has busted and the evil social worms held by the old generation are wriggling away from families circles. Jehovah God has brought healing for the families. You cannot teach men enough on issues involving sex and the future for men is settling down to free themselves from inhuman inhibited sexual slavery in fgm prostitution . Fgm prostitution is done much more for the benefits of the man child as the end receiver in marriage which is undoing of his marital life. Fgm prostitution affects marital life of a man wherever he goes and reduces him to a sexual scavenger thus trapping him to heartless being for in fgm prostitution man has accepted satanic sacrifice over his prime head. Man must turn back to God in pursuit of Divine Holiness . What will happen in near future for women who had no choice in fgm when men free themselves from demonic fgm trap? Let men love those ladies who have under gone fgm in Christ Love. Let those ladies not condemn themselves . Let them abound in liberty that is in Christ and enjoy full life in Christ. The devil has his own even among the smart elites in every society that will justify evils under all costs. Fgm is a demonic act associated with existent of parenthood and the devil who has given it a religious backing as a cover up of deception. There are women who have undergone fgm and they hold and tell the bear truth on issues based on fgm. May God Almighty shower them with blessings of fortitude of grace to forbear the deprivations done in fgm.